tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post8574118861679811852..comments2023-04-18T05:21:16.934-04:00Comments on Live in it then! : Books and ribbonsNostalgic for the Pleistocenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04369449719832190810noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-76622343316008611272010-09-04T13:34:24.395-04:002010-09-04T13:34:24.395-04:00Mrs. Peterson, that's quite some verbal carpen...Mrs. Peterson, that's quite some verbal carpenter you've got there for a son.<br /><br />Having lost both parents within 90 days of one another seven years before, by the time we lost Doug I was pretty thoroughly disabused of the notion that my grief process would ever be a healing one. I'm reminded of an old joke:<br /><br />Q. How many Microsoft engineers does it take to screw in a light bulb?<br />A. None. They simply re-define darkness to be the industry standard.<br /><br />Death appears to be even more powerful than Microsoft, so I've just got to find ways of dealing with new standards. Looks like you're doing pretty well, Ruth.<br /><br />(We're still in Ireland, btw -- but out of the Midlands and in a hotel w/ internet. Home soon.)Sherwood Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575868746160608731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-25013544700710126722010-09-04T12:58:13.806-04:002010-09-04T12:58:13.806-04:00Catherine - I think this will take awhile, but i&#...Catherine - I think this will take awhile, but i'm at last starting to really know what you've been going through.<br /><br />SY - Of course, the day cats become cooperative, life as we know it will end. As for books, books aren't the problem. <i>Shelves</i> are the problem!<br /><br />ronnie - I guess i'm doing this Healthy! 8~) During the process, its hard to tell. <br /><br />Mike - Yeah, you nailed it. <br /><br />Ronnie - yep, he nailed it. AND, a very Happy Birthday to you, a couple days late!Nostalgic for the Pleistocenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04369449719832190810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-36261964594760607892010-09-03T22:06:22.171-04:002010-09-03T22:06:22.171-04:00I don't need to say a thing. My kid just nail...I don't need to say a thing. My kid just nailed it.Ronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15219173865544116724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-62128588076148517772010-09-02T07:55:13.279-04:002010-09-02T07:55:13.279-04:00Thing about grief is that there is no real key. Yo...Thing about grief is that there is no real key. You get through the major, predictable pattern and you're okay but there's something missing, some part that just doesn't quite fit, like a wobbly table leg or a tooth you can't bite down on right. And then one day, totally out of nowhere, some silly, trivial, seemingly-unrelated something rears up and smacks you across the head. A smell, a snatch of a song, a half-forgotten memory, a glimpse of a stranger doing something familiar. And it jolts you with a memory shock that makes everything fall into place.<br /><br />You can't make it happen. There's no pattern. There's no way to bring it on. It only happens when you've let down your guard and stopped looking for it.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16807727819590358834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-47230191972858493192010-09-01T19:28:33.229-04:002010-09-01T19:28:33.229-04:00That's a lot of ribbon! I can't wait to se...That's a lot of ribbon! I can't wait to see what you do with it.<br /><br />I have been temporarily blessed that I haven't dealt with the grief of losing a parent - yet. I hope I am as centered and self-aware and healthy about it as you are when I do. And I will.<br /><br />Southernyankee - there's no problem with umpteen thousand books - if they can fit on shelves. It's when you're making paths through piles of them to get around your house that you start thinking about that news article you read about some poor soul in New York who had a pile collapse on him...ronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14044863062652781155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-73787318080953998532010-08-31T06:59:55.816-04:002010-08-31T06:59:55.816-04:00Don't know what might be wrong with umpteen th...Don't know what might be wrong with umpteen thousand books, but it does bring to mind these two brothers from New York way back when. . .Colliers or something like that?<br /><br />One thing about cats. . .like cops, they're never there when you need one.<br />:-)<br /><br />Yes, slowly we heal the ache that throbs deeply.southernyankeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745308768638376460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33510674.post-6341984966684604082010-08-30T21:40:48.455-04:002010-08-30T21:40:48.455-04:00I am so with you. I wanted a predictable grief pro...I am so with you. I wanted a predictable grief process. No way, unfortunately. I read one book and let it go at that. As you say, it takes what it takes. <br /><br />I'm still grieving at times -- especially now that Fall is coming and there are only two months until the one-year anniversary of my mother's death. At this time last year I was frantic with anticipation and worry, knowing the end was coming. <br /><br />I hate this. Still.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17054198318242454049noreply@blogger.com